Yep. 9+ years in the same house. We were ready for a change. But everyone thought were were nuts! We had a gorgeous sprawling 5200 sf ranch on 2+ acres. Barn. Swimming pool. Mountain views. We remodeled it through our construction company…and our kitchen won first place in the Colorado Awards for Remodeling Excellence!
But here’s what I learned. And it took basically all of my 30s to figure this out.
Bigger house = More stress.
More stuff to do.
More money to spend.
Less time for what’s important.
It’s as simple as that. And of course, our plan all along was to fix up the house and sell it. But we became distracted with kids, work, life, responsibilities and expectations.
I remember in my younger years admiring and aspiring for such a home. But once I got there, I realized all the sacrifices that it meant. We didn’t have children yet when we moved there. And yes…maybe to some it is/was the perfect place to raise children. But it required a lot of upkeep and maintenance. And either we pay others to maintain it , or we do so ourselves.
When it came down to it, it wasn’t worth the extra stress and expenses for us. I’m certainly not saying that it was bad – but we weren’t even using and enjoying all the space. It was no longer right for US.
And no. Our kids aren’t heading off to college yet! They’re only 6 & 8. But we both want to be as present and happy and engaged as we can with these two little angels that have blessed our lives and once we realized how much of our time and energy were being depleted on the big home – it became time to make some changes.
So we began the ultimate act of practicing what I preach 🙂 MOVING!
And though it wasn’t planned until a few months ago, this aligns so much with my message here at Spa Time Living and throughout my Chaos Cleanse™ solutions :: It’s about tuning into what self-care means and living life in alignment with what keeps you healthy, happy and whole.
I started by asking for HELP.
My favorite professional organizer friend and colleague Angela Cody-Rouget with Major Mom gave me her supportive ear and advice when I told her we were downsizing: purge purge purge!
And honestly, I was eager to do so, but found myself blocked.
What the heck is my problem?! I knew what to do. I’m not even attached to stuff. To me, it’s always been about the people; the experiences; the memories. But for some reason, I just didn’t know where to begin.
So I allowed enough quiet space and downtime to reflect and tune into what I needed.
And I discovered my own internal wisdom. A small shift really. But it was exactly what I needed.
I shifted my focus to what I’m keeping and why. This question of why guides me daily.
Here’s how asking WHY helped me while moving.
- It helped me purge, purge, purge and focus on what matters, while releasing the rest.
- When it came to packing, asking why allowed me to start releasing all the things that I didn’t love or that didn’t serve a purpose. The stress and chaos just started to melt away!
- It helped helped me get laser focused on helping the kids feel comfortable and excited :: this focus inspired and energized me to get all the main areas of our home in order and comfortable in just SIX days – pretty much on my own other than calling in reinforcements to help me drag furniture around! 🙂
Again, it’s because I asked what’s important and WHY. I wanted to help the kids feel excited about our new home (it worked!!) and help ease the transition for us all.
So the tears of missing the old home are mostly gone. We’re doing what works best for our little family and we’re feeling much more in alignment with our values and visions. And yes – these photos were taken at new place on day 6 🙂
The week is booked full of ice-hockey (yikes, now even my daughter is playing so I’m the only one who doesn’t!), school projects, family time and serving the beautiful people of our respective businesses in a much more present and understanding way. We’re scheduling our vacations and experiences for the summer that bring us joy and rejuvenate our relationships and spirits. And we’re focused on being and doing vs. having these days.
What have you purged lately to make room for what matters in your life? I’d love to hear…so leave a comment/reply below!